Yesterday, I was reminded of the benefits of speaking one’s mind. Some kind of workplace transfer has been hanging over my head in the last three months. My sly self at his best has been able to wade it off consistently without stating my position to all concerned. So when it came up again and with a tone of definitiveness yesterday, I had to act up, confronted the parties involved and spoke out my aversion to being moved.
As I saw the response to my action, I wished I had been braver these past months. I have earned quite a rep with a few as being blunt lately. Or actually, I have become more forth-coming with expressing my stand on issues lately; so much that those who have interacted with me after a while of doing same have considered me combative!
I would not describe my childhood as a repressed one but I cultivated the habit of making excuses for others early. This rewarded me with living at peace with many. While life may not entirely be called a struggle, the fittest does survive. Opportunities have to be identified and taken with full grasp. Same can be said of expressing one’s discomfort. Silence will always be considered an agreement as long as disagreement is not expressed.
I am armed to see to the end of the issue at hand, but apparently, it would have been with fewer scars if I had spoken my mind earlier. How true the words “what you allow, continues”.
So if it hurts, blurt it out! You do not stand to loose anything (it hurts already after all).
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I have followed with keen interest the un-led public demonstrations against the government, first in Tunisia and now in Egypt. We are reminded of what becomes of an individual or society that is pushed to breaking point. Sadly, I do not see same happening to the country of my birth soon. We have always found ways to survive under a string of terrible leadership. Until we are pushed to the point where we are out of options, then shall we pick the placards, sing our songs and march the streets.
Nicely done deary...it is always good to free the mind although sometimes it creates more problems than solving them.I for one have never been the type to repress my feelings or opinions about situations or circumstances.However like you said,some have perceived me as being overly aggressive or too confrontational,some admire it and tell me I ve got spunk and others feel I am perhaps over bearing.I must say,if it hurts and bites me,I simply will not hold it in forever,but sometimes it only makes things worse that I wonder maybe things would ve been better if I had just kept quiet....However I think the best thing to do is to observe the environment and the individuals you re dealing with and think of all diplomatic means possible to express your reservations, but in all this,I still stand for expressing it if it truly hurts...nice write-up deary..keep it up..x!
ReplyDeleteIf it hurts, blurt it out! Just what i need to hear or better still read. Weldone Bish.
ReplyDelete@Zeezee, I agree that one should be mindful of the the environment before expressing one's opinion. It's called self control and always a virtue.
ReplyDelete@Maimu, thanks.